Douche Only ever use plain, clean water — preferably body temperature. A spicy blend of personal stories, in-depth reporting and inspiration, Girl Boner Radio is where good girls go for sexual empowerment. What sized toys should I use? This means that if you have a guy with a dick that curves upward, then you two should both fit together like a lock and key! Hello, You can think of condoms as an extra protective barrier to protect your toy from bacteria. You better have a very relaxed anus with LOTS of lube. But really, after you relax and loosen up, then you can try anything you like!
Also, if he manages to give you an anal orgasm with his fingers, you will be more open and relaxed to let his penis get in, and once it is inside of your anal canal, some other great orgasmic sensations are possible! You can try some breathing exercises to help your body relax. Using the knuckles of each hand to spread your cheeks apart a bit, he will slowly circle his thumbs around each other so that the pads touch the anus as they pass. Otherwise bacteria can cause a variety of unpleasant infections. Do men have control over when they orgasm and ejaculate? I personally never just jump into having anal sex without at least doing a bit of preparation.
Sometimes bodies do unexpected things. First, the internal anal muscle is controlled by the autonomic nervous system. As the bottom you are in control of what happens to your body. In addition to her upcoming book, Stella has been busy writing her sex column for the Willamette Week, Humptown! Regular bowel movements are conducive to both comfort and confidence when it comes to anal sex. More of your questions answered by our Experts. If you have ever pooped before which I know everyone reading this has then you already know how to relax this muscle.
Add more lubricant throughout as needed. Washing and douching Many people feel self-conscious about cleanliness during anal play. Regular bowel movements are conducive to both comfort and confidence when it comes to anal sex. This opens up the pelvis and may allow for deeper self penetration. This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. Shadowpuppets Podcast 20 Podcast 19 Anticipation Not being relaxed enough is the primary cause of pain, because it tenses the anal muscles.